Foster Care-Allegations

Don't be in a room alone with the child.
When you have a conference with the child, have a third person there. Otherwise the child could, when he is angry and wants his way, say "Foster Dad takes me into the bedroom every Monday night...." This is scarry but it happens.

It is best to meet with the child in a room other than a bedroom. I know it may be hard to find privacy if your house is like ours, but the kitchen, dining room, picnic table in the backyard--most anywhere--is better than a bedroom
If you don't have a third person, than be sure to keep doors open. A closed door can cause suspicion.
Document or Journal the parent/child conference.
This is good way to review goals, and progress.
It is also a good record of attitude, problems, and concerns.
Document who was at the conference.
Document the child's behaviors. This is important for caseworkers, therapists, and court.
Be specific
Be factual--this is not a journal of your feelings. "Just the facts, Mam". It will usually hold up in a court of law if it is factual. Describe behaviors, not what you think he is feeling.
Good Example: Johnny came home at 2 am. He smelled like alcohol.
Bad example: Johnny came home at 2 am. He was probably out with those awful bums that drink and do drugs.
Document action and discipline you have taken concerning the child's behavior.
Don't make stupid threats--threats of violence or neglect.
Some people may believe you.
I had a neighbor ask me how I get my children to behave so well. I jokingly told her that I just paddle them each morning and they are fine all day. She believed me.
Keep careful records of expenditures
Keep receipts
If the child is old enough, have him review the expenses and sign his name to prove that he is aware of where the money is spent.
When giving the child money, have him sign that he has accepted the money.
Teenagers especially like to let caseworkers and natural family think they are being taken advantage of. The money issue is very big with them.
Report any problems or concerns quickly to the caseworker. It will be harder for the child or the birth family to triangulate if you and the caseworker have open communication. This does not mean that the caseworker will believe your side. Stick to facts not suppositions. Place the responsibility of decision making squarely on the caseworker.